Saturday, 9 January 2021

The absolute no list

Do you wish to eliminate activities or break habits in your life because you find them draining or frustrating? If so, this post might be for you.

The absolute no list has been proposed by Cheryl Richardson and is a technique designed to help us give up activities that drain us or make us resentful or short-tempered. The absolute no list is a simple, minimal technique that can make a huge difference to our wellbeing!

It focuses on certain aspects of our lives that we’re currently not happy with and therefore want to change. An absolute no list can be created simply by combining the words “I no longer …” with whatever it is we’re no longer willing to do.


An absolute no list involves becoming minimal about aspects of life that you find unsatisfying


The sentences resulting from this will be almost like mantras. My own absolute no list, for example, now includes the following:


I no longer answer the phone while I’m working on something important.

I no longer work in the office after 9pm.

I no longer care about what other people think of me.

I no longer visit Twitter regularly.

I no longer volunteer unless this feels 100% right to me.

Creating an absolute no list can help improve the quality of life significantly and is all about setting new limits – your own limits! It involves becoming minimal about aspects of your life that you find annoying or unsatisfying.